What to Ask a Psychic About Your Love Life

It is the number one reason people seek a reading, by far. It is also the area where the questions asked are the least effective, because emotion pushes you toward phrasings that cannot yield anything.

The good news: rephrasing changes everything, and it only takes a few minutes of preparation.

The three questions everyone asks

"Will he come back?" "Does she still love me?" "Will we get back together?"

They have one thing in common: they place the answer entirely outside of you, in a place you have no access to. They make you a spectator of a decision made by someone else.

An honest reading will not give you a yes or no about another person's future behavior. Nobody can promise that, and a promise of that kind should alarm you rather than reassure you.

What to ask instead

The rule fits in one line: start with "what" or "how", and make the question about you.

Instead of "will he come back", ask: what really broke between us, and what do I want to do about it?

Instead of "does she love me", ask: what do I need in this relationship, and am I getting it?

Instead of "will we get back together", ask: what is keeping me from moving forward, regardless of their answer?

The difference is not cosmetic. The first set produces a wait you cannot use, the second produces a conversation that gives you back your room to maneuver.

This phrasing mechanism applies just as well in a reading as when you draw the cards yourself.

The right questions for your situation

If you have doubts about a current relationship. What am I not allowing myself to say? What has changed in the way I am with this person?

If you have just broken up. What did this relationship teach me about what I need? What am I still feeding?

If you have been single for a long time. What keeps repeating in my encounters? What am I choosing, without seeing it?

If you are hesitating to leave. What is really holding me back: the relationship, or what would come afterwards?

If the other person is drifting away without explanation. What place do I occupy in this silence?

What no serious reading will address

Better to know it before asking the question.

Whether someone is faithful. No symbol constitutes proof. A spread can reflect your worry, it does not establish a fact. What a spread will never tell you on this subject deserves to be clear before you venture onto that ground.

A date. Not for a return, a meeting or a reconciliation.

A guaranteed result. No honest practice promises to bring back a lover or intervenes in a third person's feelings.

Subjects that do not belong here. Health, family legal proceedings, decisions about assets: those areas belong to qualified professionals, and a serious practitioner will refer you to them.

How many questions to prepare

Three, no more. Written down, one sentence each.

A reading that tries to cover seven subjects handles none of them properly. Three well phrased questions easily fill forty minutes of useful exchange.

Choosing the right moment

Not within an hour of an argument, not at two in the morning after a difficult evening. At those moments, you will only hear one fragment, the one that looks like hope, and you will cling to it for months.

This is especially true right after a separation, when it is often better to wait a little before getting a reading, to avoid a session that costs you money without bringing you anything.

After the exchange

This is the part nobody talks about, and yet it is the only one that really counts. A reading changes nothing by itself: it gives you words, an angle, sometimes a sentence that stays with you for a long time.

Write down what you take away within twenty four hours, while it is fresh, then reread it a month later. What to actually do with what was said during the session makes all the difference between a useful reading and a forgotten one.

Checking who you are dealing with

Love questions attract the most spectacular promises, because it is the area where vulnerability is highest.

Three firm landmarks: a price announced beforehand, no promise of bringing someone back, no additional paid offer during the session to "unblock" a situation. The criteria that set a reliable practitioner apart take on their full importance here.

And if the Star appears in the reading, it speaks of sincere feelings and possible renewal. Read the meaning of the Star in tarot.

The question "is he thinking of me?" comes up very often. Before asking it, read our article on asking the tarot the right way about the other person's thoughts.

The essentials in one sentence

Ask open questions about yourself, and accept not knowing what you are going to hear.

To understand what a reading can really shed light on in a relationship, and what it never will, the general framework of a reading about your love life will spare you the expectations that lead to disappointment.